Spare the Rod, Spoil the child

         Spare The Rod, Spoil The Child?

 

In today's modem world, we are not alone any more. We are constantly surrounded by the cacophony of advice columns, celebrities, agony aunts, chat showes, TV evangelists, therapist women's magazine, self-help literature and what not?

 All these voices echo our needs of under developed emotional quotient in today's generation. That tell us how to deal with see relationships and handle sentiments. More or less the word 'sentiment has fallen on hand times today. It is hardly used and its cousin sentimental has negative connotations. Two and a hall centuries ago things used to be very different then sentiments meant roughly what emotions mean today

Henry James, an American writer, once said, “Three things are very important in life, the art of being kind, the second of being kind, and the third of being kind. Somewhere, something went wrong, terribly wrong. Our world wasn't from ever a prison of chaos, a circus of muddle. Life bloomed once on its streets but then it became a place where no one cares, where our resemblances became our differences, where we are proud of things we should be ashamed of The horror of our age has destroyed everything beautiful left in the realms of humankind, we haven't gained anything. In fact we have failed to save whatever little was left behind. But they say it's always darkest before dawn.

Children are one of the most wonderful creations of god. Aren't they? Who bring joy, sadness affection, pride, jealousy, happiness and countless emotions into the lives of ones connected with them who not only ane learners but teachers at times. Dreaming everyday of becoming something.

 One day an astronaut and a doctor, other and keep on training over and over again But how many of their dreams actually turn into reality? I was four or five I don't exactly remember, I stole some candies from my dad's pocket. Parents being parents, I was caught and was about to be grilled.

 Surprisingly my dad didn't beat me, he didn't punish me. The only thing he said to me was "Son, never take anything without seeking permission" I still remembers vividly, because right there I learnt the first lesson of my life to forgive, when you're angry while having the authority to punish We talk so much about being a generation of the 21st Century. We consider ourselves to be

logically and technically equipped, intellectually stable, and rightly so. We've gained a ler in

this very process of transition from 'what we were to what we have become. But with the we've also infected ourselves with a huge problem of intolerance we just cant stand to anything which seems unfavorable to us personally. We only see things, how we want them to be Citting intolerance, we see a member of videos going viral, nowadays, in which children re besten mercilessly or whipped brutally by their teachers and parents as a mark of punishment Punishment for not doing it the way they want to get it done. Nevertheless, it is 21  century we believe in practicality. Isn't it? Have you ever seen any animal beating their young ones in andre to teach them tactics of survival? No. Then it won't be wrong to say animals are more humane than humans. If yes, then, what is the difference between humans and animals? The anly thing that makes us different is "Tolerance' which we lack heavily. This problem might not as big as it is but its implications are far beyond our imagination.

 Effect of physical punishment on children are not temporary at all. University of Arizona recently conducted a research in child psychology, which states, "Any kind of physical punishment on children have at least 20 negative effects and not a single positive ane" which included weak social skills, lower academic scores, loneliness, disinterest and hiding things mom caretakers etc. According to UNICEF, 310 million children suffer from brutalities by their caretakers every year, 56% teens are undergoing depression increasingly

This does not only count for physical abuse but mental abuse also possesses the greater, if not the same type of, negative outcomes. In fact, physical scars might heal someday but mental wons are permanent. They're much more damaging and often lead to personality disorders Mary renowned psychologists have emphasized on the proper care and nurturing of children in their developmental stages and also point at the deep, ingrained damage on children peche, if they are subjected to trauma and abuse which corrupts their behavior throughout their lives.

Physical abuse is never an option. Everything can be dealt with tolerance and compassion. Children need to be loved, only then can we receive it

"Love is only begotten by love." It is high time that we make some real efforts and hold ourselves responsible for a prosperous future of our future generation, but for that we need to changes filled with positivity and tolerance in our behavior to end the malice and remodel our character. We need to regenerate and revitalize our ideas for the good Il pos without saying that children are the developing adults. Any kind of abuse will eventually be hazardous to the child and society itself.